This week, we’re remembering Cassius Turvey, a 15-year-old Noongar and Yamatji boy who died after he was attacked while doing something we should all have the right to do: walking home with friends. If you have a spare 20 minutes this weekend, we urge you to listen to this interview between the Guardian’s Indigenous affairs reporter Sarah Collard and Cassius’s mother Mechelle Turvey about the impact her son made on those around him
A painfully relatable thread on good girl conditioning
Anyone who’s ever been sucked into the productivity trap needs to read this (“Suddenly, accomplishing loads of small tasks and tracking my worth by how many things I got done seemed ridiculous. The idea seemed gross, even. None of this matters in the end”)
Interiors we bookmarked this week include Rita Ora’s Victorian manor, this mid-century Geelong house, this chic Milan apartment (we want the yellow bar), and pretty much everything in this mesmerising boho-chic-meets-surrealist house in London (that evil eye coffee table !!)
On co-parenting in diet culture
We’re suckers for friendship essays and this one by Mira Jacobs for Harper's Bazaar about her best friend moving away had us sobbing into our keyboards (“We were girls together in this city. We drank on tar-hot rooftops here, worked four jobs at a time here, could not afford dinners here, and told ourselves someday we would be writers here. We cried through 9/11 here, found our partners here, had babies here, and lost fathers a whole plane ride away from here.”)
When she left her wallet at a bar, Jessica’s identity was stolen and her tale is a wild ride
Heidi Klum is known for going all-out on Halloween but this year she dressed up as a worm and basically broke the internet (apparently last year she wanted to be a tree but that was too hard so she chose a worm instead). Our favourite part was that despite being able to stand upright, she decided to make everyone interview her lying down. Oh, and also the photos from the afterparty where she removed all of the costume except for the face
The New Yorker has dropped the top reads of 2022 – which of these are on your TBR list? Elon Musk’s first week as ‘Chief Twit’ included dissolving the board of directors, dropping hints about reviving Vine, telling staff to work 84 hour weeks, threatening to lay off 25% of the company, and asking users if they’d pay for their verification badge (use this site to find out who was verified pre-Musk). If this upsets you, we recommend reading Ryan Broderick’s eulogy for Twitter in the excellent newsletter Garbage Day (it also succinctly summarises some of the problems facing other major social media platforms right now)
In other tech news: Instagram group profiles are coming, the new desktop IG is already SO much better, Tumblr is reintroducing nudity on the platform, Discord has banned 55 million accounts, there’s a new way to Google things, Pantone has introduced a subscription fee to use *fancy* colours in Photoshop, Snapchat really really wants you to buy things, Meta is matching up to $7m in charitable donations this month, Uber is sending push notification ads for other brands (we’re confused too), Google is experimenting with an AI writing tool, and Instagram scared everyone when it mass-suspended accounts on Halloween
What matters in your life right now?
Hayley Nahman eloquently explores our desire to aestheticise our everyday lives in her substack Maybe Baby (“One definition of postmodernism is the disappearing distinction between a subject (like a person) and its representation (like a photo). Today, we actually tend to consider representations more real, or more meaningful, than the subjects they represent, like how a person is more legitimate if they have a web presence, or an event is more legitimate if it’s photographed or recorded.”)
What to do if you don’t think you can stomach your partner’s past
And in other news: The festive season has begun (at least according to Mariah), POTUS joining BeReal was not on our 2022 bingo card, how to befriend a crow (yes a bird), everything is Seinfeld no further nuance needed, brb just cooking some delicious “whatever”, controversial dinner party etiquette rules, giving out potatoes at Halloween, living with an oldest daughter, stop being weird about only children, Louis Theroux has finally met his match in Judi Dench, when your mum latches onto your friend hard, Heidi Klum dancing in her worm costume cannot be unseen, Chelsea Fagan asked for recommendations for “lush, romantic, transportative” films on Twitter and the thread has hundreds of recommendations, and there’s nothing better than politicians getting schooled by older people
